Compatibility issues.

This thing called love..

Hey neighbor, how’re you? (Yes I’m posting today because airtel was uncooperative yesterday)

A while back, I read Stay With Me by Ayobami Adebayo, and one thing stood out was the intense emotions between the couple. Did they love each other? Absolutely, Yes. But were they compatible? Not at all and it made me think about a past experience I once had.

Story time:

I once dated a guy who was a big introvert. Indoor dates all the time. And while I enjoy staying in occasionally, I love going out, exploring new places, and just being outside. I tried to communicate this, but I also told myself that patience and consideration are part of love which they are but only when it goes both ways.

Also, as a man, why are you indoors all the time? Who are you hiding from?

At some point, I realized I was betraying myself. On one hand, this was someone I liked. On the other, I had been compromising for so long without any effort from him to meet me halfway. And like I said, love is a two-way street. So eventually, I had to stand up and walk away which wasn’t easy, sighhh

In the book, Their love was deep, but their relationship was filled with heartbreak, secrets, and choices that kept pulling them apart instead of bringing them closer. And that’s something we don’t talk about enough sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, sometimes you’re just not the right fit.

For different people, different things matter. And it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else as long as it makes sense to you.

I think one of the biggest reasons we end up in unhappy situations is because we lie to ourselves from the start. We see a red flag and convince ourselves orange. We feel that gut instinct but suppress it because “everyone has flaws” Then, years later, resentment builds. The things we ignored become unbearable, and suddenly, we’re thinking, maybe I should have been honest with myself from the start.

The truth is, compatibility matters. A lot. It matters in romantic relationships, in friendships, and even in work/business (because let’s be honest, it’s not everyone you can work with and that’s fine).

No matter how much you love or respect someone, if you’re not aligned in the things that truly matter—values, life goals, emotional needs then it’s only a matter of time before the cracks start to show.

Don’t let pressure make you settle for something that doesn’t truly fit. There are different layers to compatibility, and some mismatches are easier to work through than others. It’s just something to think about before we get too carried away with vibes and chemistry.

Lastly I have exciting news, I’ve been working on some interesting videos for my YouTube (I don’t want to give out any spoilers but it’s about love🤭) and I think you would absolutely love them. Click here to check it out!

All my love,

Sarah.